chica, chill. the only reason i bring up that i'm making the list because of you is that the only reason i'm making the list is because someone asked for it, and you happen to be that person. without mentioning that someone has requested it, i feel like i'm giving the impression that i not only want people bringing gifts but that i'm telling them what to bring, and i find that to be incredibly rude and presumptuous. unfortunately, the only way for me to not feel like a complete asshole is to remind everyone that i'm not doing it for me, i'm doing it for you. i would've done the same thing to anyone else had they told me i should make a list. sorry if i'm in some way hurting your feelings or whatever, but there's really no reason for you to be upset about it. i'm not being snide when saying it, just trying to make an obnoxious "buy me stuff!" list seem less selfish and greedy. i really don't want anyone feeling like they have to or even should buy me anything, and i'm paranoid that giving a list will give that impression.